Well after reading about marinerfans return I thought it would be kinda funny to figure out how many we got on here that have given their ol' lady tha boot.

I'll start it off. I was married for 4 years, got deployed to Kuwait, ol' lady got knocked up while I was gone and then when I got back she took a week and a half long vacation to panama city, fl to visit here mom. In a total of 9 days she slept with 6 different guys.

So........... been divorced since last august and I'm LOVIN IT!!!!! Never been happier come to think of it.

im sorry to hear that. i have my own relationship issues that mainly stem from being cheated on as well. I doubt i will ever marry

So what did you divorce her for? Kidding..sorry, it sucks that stuff like that happens. Me, never married but every person I know is divorced if that counts.

LMAO you dont have to apologize to me. I laugh about it now. Plus I got full custody of my kids cause she knew I had to much dirt on her for her to take me to court.

well I'm glad you made the best of the situation, I'm not much of a commitment person myself so +1 on the doubt I'll ever get "married" it's all throw away now days anyway so what does it matter

WOW... ummm..... been living together for just over 4 years, asked her father's permission over the holidays, have ring, waiting for the right time.

(may sound ignorant to y'all) but 1,000% confident that she's the one and looking forward to every minute of the rest of my life.

sorry if that's OT to the OP

hey no problem, to be honest I hope it works out for you. Im just not big on marraige anymore

It's not for everyone, seems like I recall a stat that at least 50% of all marraiges in the US end in divorce in a matter of just several years...

I will have been happily married for 10 years this August. I've had more friends get divorced than have stayed together though. My Dad's working up to his 3rd divorce right now, one of my younger sisters has already been divorced and remarried and she's not even 30 yet...

Panama City huh, lol thats where I live.

After my E21 is built to my liking, then i'll seriously consider marriage.

53% of 1st timers now end up in divorce while over 80% of second timers are a success... Says something... we are getting married too young, making poor decisions about people we don't really know, etc...

i married a beautiful Swedish lass, then divorced, neither one of us were mature enough to figure the whole thing out. i dated and after realizing how rare it was that a woman would allow me to have 6 cars in the backyard. my wife and i reconciled. lol that of course is not the only reason we got back together. we just put the cart before that horse and had to come to an agreement about some stuff. Like there WILL be a budget for car parts. And she MUST leave a month out out the year. (to visit her family of course):)

ahaha

been flawless for three years now.

and btw cheating was never a part of our problem, i think cheaters should be flogged if there was not some sort of crazy sex agreement in the beginning. If this were to fall through i would never deal with a relationship again. I would sell my house buy a big garage with a single enclosed room on second story for sleeping ,cooking, Nighttime tv and ,computer station, and of course another room for washing my butt.

I take no credit for remaining married since 1997... and among my close friends, only one couple has gone their separate ways. I married the earliest (at 28) but maybe that wasn't too early after all.

I got married in 1993 at age 25 and so far it's been great.

how long did most of you guys date your wifes before yous got married?

ive been with my girlfriend for a while now and i dont know how she puts up with my car talk.

We were friends for about a year, we dated for about a year before getting engaged, then just over a year later we were married.

how long did most of you guys date your wifes before yous got married?

ive been with my girlfriend for a while now and i dont know how she puts up with my car talk.
I met my wife in college and started going out after about a year of being friends. Dated for about four years before getting married. Had a child about 3 years after that.

so 3-5 years prior to gettin married. sounds about right i think. ive been with my girl for 2 and a bit years now, dont think ill be gettin married anytime soon, were both still very young.

i married a beautiful Swedish lass, then divorced, neither one of us were mature enough to figure the whole thing out. i dated and after realizing how rare it was that a woman would allow me to have 6 cars in the backyard. my wife and i reconciled.

If this were to fall through i would never deal with a relationship again. I would sell my house buy a big garage with a single enclosed room on second story for sleeping ,cooking, Nighttime tv and ,computer station, and of course another room for washing my butt.

I think like this too... Except ive never been married, my last gf is whacked out(talking of marrige the day she broke it off), and id add a large balcony for grilling that also had a chain hoist for pulling engines and parts off frames.

I dunno if ill ever get married, due to the fact people change and learn new things all the time. Love is mysterious, thats for sure. Of all my friends who got married (most has been 4 years+) all are together still. Of the friends who had kids before marrige, 4 out of 7 arent together. I want kids thats for sure.

I met my wife in '93, started dating in '97, got married in 2000. I can't imagine life without her. I think the biggest thing for us was our 4 year friendship before we actually dated, so there are no real secrets, plus she's good at putting up with my car addiction.

I do like the idea of a big garage with a small room if things ever go south.:devillook

I like the idea of the big garage, but with a big house, and a good relationship. Call me a dreamer.

I've been happily married for almost 4 years now. We were engaged after 6 months and married at 1 year, I was 23 at the time. We took our vows with the intent that divorce would never be an option.

Sure, the car habit has been a source of contention at times, but we work through it.

Aside from cheating, I think so many marriages fail because people aren't willing to work hard enough at it or are aren't willing to put their spouses' needs over their own. Sure, there may be a few out there that just happen, but for most it takes effort and sacrifice on both sides. I've heard it said that marriage is not both people giving 50% and meeting in the middle, it's both people giving 100% and expecting nothing in return. I've also heard that the biggest strain on marriages today is financial issues (so stay out of debt!!).

Of course, lots of hot steamy sex helps too. Like 15 minutes ago....:devillook

To further advocate marriage, my grandparents made it to their 60th, my parents were happily married for 15 years before my mom died when I was 3, and my dad has been happily married again another 20 years. There are about 5 guys in my group of friends that are really close, and they've all been happily married for several years now as well.

It takes effort and sacrifice on both sides. I've heard it said that marriage is not both people giving 50% and meeting in the middle, it's both people giving 100% and expecting nothing in return.

+1, i too believe both need to make sacrifices, its one of the ways to keep each other happy.

yeah well my wife and i met and two months later she was pregnant and two months after that we were married. I always made it a point to work through the petty bullshit but when i found out about the cheating it was done.

cheaters should be doomed to drive a geo for the rest of their life. not even a new one but, beat to shit pos geo.

I met my wife in Jan 2000. We were both thinking at least 2 years dating minimum...THen I got this phone call at work from this strange phone number with a 907 area code and then remembered I passed around my card at an EPA conference I had been too about 3 months earlier and he said if you want to move to Alaska I could almost guarentee you a job (as much as is possible with a 3 person hiring team for a state government job) His man quit with little notice and he already had the job opened up once with no qualified people, so to me that meant noone could walk in and get to work, and I could. So I talked to my girl friend and she said with a more permanant arrangement she would move from Dallas to Alaska with me... It just so happened her mother offered up her diamond from her first marriage (first husband passed away within 2 years of her being married) for her ring and a pile of loose diamonds from a necklace my wife's grandmother had given to her as a child. So I got a ring made, quit my job, moved (my lease happened to be 1 month from expired) packed what I could fit in my CHevy Cavalier left the rest by the dumpster, got a ring made, proposed and moved to Alaska in Aug of 2000....She stayed behind and planned the wedding and funded me being out of work for a month and getting established here. We will be married 7 years on monday and have a 15 month old boy who cruises the living room on his Z4 baby racer..., for some reason booking a church on a st. patties day weekend was easy....

I turned onto a car guy after we got married and my wife lets me have a car habit. I wouldn't trade her in for anything. How many wives would put up with 5 cars in the driveway and only 1 is hers, and half of mine are rusty junkers lol...in fact I've clogged the garage for a month now with my new free beater 320i and she doesn't complain about having to park out in the cold and snow.

I was engaged for 5 years, after buying an apartment and living together for 4 months she decided I was bad for her health.

Well - My wife and I have been married for 28 years this coming June :redspot. Thanks to God and my wife, she is the best - for me. I was 28 when we got married and we now have three Childern who are as old as most of you now. :(

Wow! Kudos OLD MAN! I hope my fiancee and I can say that someday.

I'll join in on this

I will be getting married on Oct 12 of this year. I have been with my fiance now for 7 years (we meet when we were 19). I cant wait, i can already picture that day in my head! :redspot:buttrock

two of your very own E21 Legion member will actually be my gromsmen :eyecrazy

I'll put my word in...been married for 2.5 years now...AND WE ARE 12 WEEKS PREGNANT!! woohoo! well, kinda scary also, being the male wanting to be able to provide and all, while wifey stays home and not work. Only way i believe a marriage will last is to have it built on a solid foundation. What is that foundation you ask? I believe the answers are clearly written in the Bible. If you want it to last, willing to work hard together at your relationship, put the other spouse before yourself, and love as Christ does the church...your relationship will grow. But, it takes both partners to make these decisions...so, careful on the spouse choice.

I'm getting married july 26th. My fiance is the best.

sweet man! congrats!

After some noteworthy faceplants in the girlfriend department I managed to find my lady while shopping in a boutique wine shop. She recommended a bottle of LANG pinot and we have been adventuring for close to two years now. Mabe in the fall for the big day. :cool

I'll put my word in...been married for 2.5 years now...AND WE ARE 12 WEEKS PREGNANT!! woohoo! well, kinda scary also, being the male wanting to be able to provide and all, while wifey stays home and not work. Only way i believe a marriage will last is to have it built on a solid foundation. What is that foundation you ask? I believe the answers are clearly written in the Bible. If you want it to last, willing to work hard together at your relationship, put the other spouse before yourself, and love as Christ does the church...your relationship will grow. But, it takes both partners to make these decisions...so, careful on the spouse choice.

+1

The bible spells out the perfect formula for successful marriage. I agree it has to based on a solid foundation.

Contrary to popular misconception, it's not about submission and servitude on the woman's part, but about the husband loving his wife as Christ loved us (ie - enough to die for us) and the wife being able to submit because she knows her husband is putting her needs above his own.

It's funny how this thread has turned in to happiness and success stories...

It's funny how this thread has turned in to happiness and success stories...

Yeah, everyone desires successs and it is great when we can share what does and doesn't work...with our Bimmers or...in any aspect of life. Especially if it is in marriage, since a broken marriage causes so many negative ramifications.

Back on topic...

My wife and I split after 8 years in a relationship. We married after 7 years of dating and living together. Looking back, we got too deep, too fast. We moved-in after 4 months of dating due to (her) financial need. We should have lived seperately after the hurdle was over with, but we stayed living together which was a driving force for us to stay together. Had we been just dating we prolly would have split at some point. I was willing to make it work but she had a "religious awakening" which told he I was not the man for her.

In the end, the split was amicable, and we are friends now. I figure I'm not destined to marry because of my hard head. I have been having fun, just relaxing and not looking for anythng serious (I'm no man-whore either). It's been great being single again. Can spend as much time as I want on projects (cars and code) without any nagging.

the first time i was married i met her in the beginning of my junior year. she was hot and a year younger then me. she was a country girl from east texas and i was a southern california kid. she was great and we got married about 4 months out of high school. a few months later i left for the army and she decided she didn't want to wait for me so i got a call in airborne school saying to not look for her and she got rid of my 65 mustang and dirt bikes and had my truck in (funny part because of earlier story) panama city florida. or was headed that way. i took some leave to try to find her and fix it but got a call from the south carolina state troopers saying my truck was abandoned just north of georgia so i rode down with my dad who took leave from the marine corps to help me out. she called later saying she was pregnant and in pc florida so i said ok, have fun and don't call me crying later when your alone (which she did a few months later).


came back to corpus on christmas day in 98 and met my current wife the day before valentine's day. we got married on 14 august that year and have been happily married since. we have two boys and had 5 bmws in the yard many many times. she has had an 88 325is and an 89 735i with a factory five speed plus the 89 325i i drive is actually hers. she doesn't get bothered by the cars and is happy (at least she says so). i love her and she is great even though she is a red head and hispanic (and for you who don't know, that translates to bad bad bad bad temper). she is still as beautiful today as she was back then. i can see that we are going to be togather till we die so we've got another 40 or 50 years to go, i hope.

wow good story jason. Hey o/t but do you have any m20 cars sitting in the yard? I need to use one to fab up a triple weber manifold.

no but i have an m20 in the shed you guys can borrow.

its an eta but the intake bolts up the same way

sweet, I'll have chuck give you a call

alrigh man. i won't be here this weekend though so either tomorrow afternoon or next week

After some noteworthy faceplants in the girlfriend department I managed to find my lady while shopping in a boutique wine shop. She recommended a bottle of LANG pinot and we have been adventuring for close to two years now. Mabe in the fall for the big day. :cool

do you mean "Lange" from the Willamette Valley here in Oregon? One of my absolute favorites. I bought my wife a membership to their Cru Club for Christmas a few years back, we get a half case from them every quarter. I store away at least half of every shipment. I've got a few really good ones put away in dark storage... :aroused

YES!!! Thats the one. I guess I left off the E but it is the same winery. I am making room in the trunk for what I will bring back when we come home from Bimmerfest. I cant wait.:D

don't forget to turn the bottle or they go bad. the cork dries out and messes something up. or have them inverted a bit so the cork is under the fluids

i dont know if i really want to get married right now.
ive had my flings and little things here and there, but theres only 1 girl that really sticks out in my mind right now, my best friend of 3 years, shes gorgeous, funny, kinda smart, and a smartass. weve talked about getting together and whatnot, but i just cant bring myself to do anything. we'll lay in bed watching movies and shell get real close and cuddle, and as much as i wanna rip off the pants and go at it, i dont, because it might be weird. and i dont wanna risk losing such a good friend. but i think the time is coming to act and do soemthing before some douchebag scoops her up. idk though.

shes talked to me about having kids and settling down, starting a family, but she does NOT appreciate my car addiction. but then again i dont appreciate her shrek babies buckled up in the backseat (i think around 20 or so).

im one of the only kids i know that has parents still together. most of my friends have step parents or moms or dads girlfriends and boyfriends, as long as im home i believe that love lasts forever, but if im at a friends house, im not so sure.

bitches is crazy.