...and I'm having a hard time getting mentally ready for it. The mother of the baby is a paralegal that I work with.

I have been to far too many funerals in my life, but never for a child.

:(

Fwiw, try not to get freaked out. Not to sound harsh, but it is just a funeral. Kids die too. :dunno

:az

Im sorry to hear. I always feel drained, both physically and emotionally after a funeral.

Fwiw, try not to get freaked out. Not to sound harsh, but it is just a funeral. Kids die too. :dunno

:az

I'm not freaked out. I am very adept at handling death, unfortunately. This just seems a wee bit more tragic, for some reason. :dunno

Best of Luck to you Bill, but do not shed tears.

I'm not freaked out. I am very adept at handling death, unfortunately. This just seems a wee bit more tragic, for some reason.
Well, one could say that's due to a perception of unrealized potential. :az

Well, one could say that's due to a perception of unrealized potential. :az

wow that's kinda utilitarian.


I say one could say its because the poor child never got the fair shake at life. And the younger you are the more innocent you are thus what could you have possibly done to "deserve it" in a karma type sense.

Anyways, that sucks - must be hell on the mother.

wow that's kinda utilitarian.

I say one could say its because the poor child never got the fair shake at life.
Really? :ponder

You pretty much said the same thing, just with a more sentimental bent. :dunno


However, it begs asking: What's a "fair shake" at life? The kid was born. It didn't last. Such is the essence of life itself. There is no such thing as a "fair shake." Not everything makes it to adulthood. Now, is that sad? Maybe. But it's also the way of nature as a whole. Some survive, some do not.

As I say, this is in no way intended to be unsympathetic. Just objectively logical.

Really? :ponder

You pretty much said the same thing, just with a more sentimental bent. :dunno


However, it begs asking: What's a "fair shake" at life? The kid was born. It didn't last. Such is the essence of life itself. There is no such thing as a "fair shake." Not everything makes it to adulthood. Now, is that sad? Maybe. But it's also the way of nature as a whole. Some survive, some do not.

As I say, this is in no way intended to be unsympathetic. Just objectively logical.

As you have definitely been, here and elsewhere.

Really? :ponder

You pretty much said the same thing, just with a more sentimental bent. :dunno



Not really; i suppose it could be that i'm misunderstanding you. "Unrealized potential" has a more "for the benefit of society" connotation to it. i.e. "wow, this kid coulda grown up and cured cancer"

By "fair shake at life" i'm referring to the fact that the kid never got to experience life's emotions. More of a cognition type thing.

Not really; i suppose it could be that i'm misunderstanding you. "Unrealized potential" has a more "for the benefit of society" connotation to it. i.e. "wow, this kid coulda grown up and cured cancer"
Oh, far from it. But then, it was something of an open-ended statement. If I'd said "unrealized potential for personal fulfillment," it likely would have seemed closer to what you meant.

I suppose it's something of a glass half empty/full question, in that the conclusion one assigns it speaks more of the person filling in the blank. :ponder

By "fair shake at life" i'm referring to the fact that the kid never got to experience life's emotions. More of a cognition type thing.
Interesting. That seems more objective than your original statement would have led me to conclude you were being.



In any event, it's still sad for the family, no doubt.

Well, it sucked, but the family is showing incredible strength. The mother actually greeted me at the door and smiled and thanked me for coming. The father delivered the eulogy.

All I can say is wow....

:(

I am very sorry to hear, my prayers are with her and her family.

My condolences to your coworker and her family on their loss . . .

I have never been to a funeral period. I just about lost it when my rottweiler died. Imagine what will happen when a person dies! :(

Well, it sucked, but the family is showing incredible strength. The mother actually greeted me at the door and smiled and thanked me for coming. The father delivered the eulogy.

All I can say is wow....

:(

Wow.....That's gotta be hard showing the strength and keeping it 'together'. regardless of some of the feedback here of it just being the way of nature.

I think losing a child has got to be the worst thing one could possibly ever endure. I've came very close but was very lucky not to have experienced it, I thank God every day for making everything ok.

I can only imagine what this poor family is going through. My thoughts and prayers are with them.